James 1:19-20
Introduction:
1. “We have two ears and one mouth that we should listen twice as much as we speak” (Epictetus).
2. “I have sometimes had occasion to regret that I have spoken, never that I was silent” (Xenocrates).
3. “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise” (Proverbs 10:19).
Discussion:
I. Swift To Hear
A. Active listening is a key component in healthy relationships, and James enjoins this on Christians in this passage.
B. Swift= Gr. tachus: “quick, fleet, ready, prompt”
C. The one so disposed is eager to give an honest hearing to God and man thereby enabling communication.
D. Hearing is imperative for us to come to faith (Romans 10:13-17).
II. Slow To Speak
A. Calculated speech is another key to relationships enjoined here.
B. Slow= Gr. bradys: literally means dull or sluggish
C. While we rush to listen, we pause before replying (Proverbs 18:13).
D. How many misunderstandings might we avoid? (Joshua 22:10-34)
III. Slow To Anger
A. Listening deficiencies fuel hot tempers.
B. God is slow to anger (Exodus 34:6-7; Numbers 14:18-19).
C. A slow temper indicates wisdom and might (Proverbs 14:29; 16:32).
D. A quick temper is an impediment to righteousness (James 1:20).
Conclusion:
1. Though we often listen only to formulate a response, we must learn to listen to understand.
2. Once we fully understand, we must be calculated in our speech.
3. These steps will help prevent misunderstandings and hurt feelings.